THINGS HAPPEN FOR US, NOT TO US.
You ever see, or come across, things that kind of make you stop pause?
I had that the other day. I came across a post on Instagram from an organization that I follow called Heroes and Horses. They do a lot of work with Mustangs and with servicemen and women. They help them get through all sorts of different issues (be it psychological, emotional, etc.). They help them to move on from their past experiences and work their way through the hardships they've endured to find (and refine) their purpose. To move forward with their lives.
So, they had this post and it made me stop and think. It gave me some clarity.
The quote was, “The conditions of the world only reflect your feelings. The outside mirrors the inside.”
I don't know about you; but, there are times where not everything goes right.
We accumulate losses.
It made me realize that for the last 10 years plus, I've been essentially a victim to what I thought was happening to me. When, in fact, they may have been happening for me.
Ed Mylett is an entrepreneur that I follow, and he's got this book that I just recently listened to on Audible. It is called “The Power of One More”. In it, he talks about how giving things one more try, one more attempt, one more effort. In doing so, maybe that “one more” is the difference between where you've been and where you're going.
Maybe (just maybe) that is going to be the catalyst in life you've always dreamed of.
I have believed that (sometimes to a fault). In doing so, I've lost a lot of credibility with family and friends.
I've always been that idea person. (Maybe you're the same way?) You've always been that dreamer. You can see a concept (or see an idea), you can see the value in it, you can see what it can grow into. You're not just in the present, seeing what it is today, but you can see what it can be in the future.
That has bit me in the butt time and time again.
Getting super frustrated the “L’s” keep stacking up.
I've had so many things that I've done in the past that are no longer viable.
I wanted to go back and run my family's business. Wasn't invited back. I was told there's no room for me. Go get a job.
I get a job, get promoted right away; but, I'm not a kiss ass. I am not one to tell people just want they want to hear. I tell them my honest opinion and what I think they need to hear. I rubbed some of the upper management the wrong way and I was let go from that company
I go to start my own company. That doesn’t work out.
I had a podcast and internet radio show. Those are no longer running.
Go to work for in-laws, that didn't work out. So, now there's two family businesses that I wasn't welcome in.
I connect my parents to some new business and investing opportunities. Those started off great, ended up as scams. (What a shit show.)
I see all of these people that have been successful, they have achieved their dreams and more, and I think to myself “they are no smarter than me.” I am not an idiot. Why has nothing clicked up to this point.
People will tell you that you’ve tried; but, maybe it is time to just lower your expectations.
But you can’t.
You are a dreamer, and you know you were put on this earth for more.
So, I read that quote and I thought about the losing streak I’ve been on. I realized that my outside (my results) is a reflection of my inside (not feeling worthy of success); but, then all of a sudden something comes around that gives a little bit of a hope.
It's a little bit of a light and you start to look at it and you're thinking… Hmm, maybe this is it?
For me, it happened this spring.
My father-in-law had purchased a Mustang, not the car the horse, from a local organization that trains these animals and gives them homes. Gives them purpose and finds them new opportunities. They're not like a regular domestic horse. They need work. You need to keep up with them. You need to keep working at it in order to keep progressing. Otherwise, the chances are that they could regress.
There are so many parallels between horses and humans. When I look and talk with this horse, it is like I am looking and talking to a reflection of myself.
He's shown so much potential. He's shown what he can do; but, then whatever he gets put in a situation to where that progression's not nurtured, he starts to regress.
I feel like my life has been the same way. I’ve talked a big game, started to show progress towards my goals, and then something knocks me back and causes me to regress.
I can self-sabotage with the best of them.
After some self-reflection, thinking over this quote, and having listened to Ed’s book; I get this feeling that Dart (the 12-year-old Mustang) is that catalyst my life has been working up to. The amount that I've learned about myself when working with him has made me realize this is something that I want to do forever.
Am I going to be some professional horse trainer? Who knows?
I don’t know the path this is going to take; but, I am certain this is a journey I am meant to be on.
